I've taken both Paxil and Lexapro.
I was prescribed Paxil after a very bad experience at work with a mgr who constantly berated me and actually took me into an office and tore me down, making me believe ppl I thought were friendly and liked me were talking to him behind my back about what a worthless piece of trash I was.
I was dx'd with GAD, and took the Paxil for about 6 months. By that time this mgr had been moved and then had a psychotic break...
The Paxil made me feel nothing. In the beginning that was good bc it made me stop crying. But as time went on I couldn't stand not feeling like I could feel anything. No joy, no pain, nothing. So I got off of it, and that was fairly easy.
Lexapro was for my "jail incident". Wow, still hard to write this... Anyway NY gp put me on Lexapro bc I was clearly depressed and anxious at a minimum. I also met my good friend Xanax at this time.
Lexapro kept me off the bottom, without preventing me from feeling good and bad.
Lexapro was a bear for me to get off of. I don't know if it was bc of the situation (which still clearly upsets me more than 5 years later!) or bc of the med itself. I took it maybe a year with the last 6 months of me trying to get off of it.
That said, I still take Xanax occasionally and never felt dependent on it.
I hope you find something that works for you