Hitting them with a hammer is a funny way to show someone you love them.
Charlie wrote:Well I was in the pub yesterday (delivering sandwiches, not buying drinks) and I didn't even realise that the barmaid was interested in me until my sister pointed it out to me as we left, with the ways she was asking questions. I'm still not convinced - but I never saw anything either way.
See, this kind of thing confuses the heck out of me. How does asking questions mean she's interested in anything other than what she's asking you about? I'm amazed anyone can tell these things!
Does that mean you get to ask her out next time you're in the pub?
I'm starting to realize (now living in the city and getting used to "the look" than some guys can give when interested) that most people will not ask certain types of questions, or in certain ways, simply to be polite. So it may be a safe bet to assume that if someone is showing an interest in something you're saying, it may be a come-on.
I didn't get this before, and would basically require the hammer approach that Benji mentioned.
Before, I used to think, "Well, what if they're just honestly interested in what I'm saying?" I'm realizing how infrequently this actually occurs, lol.
I am thoroughly content and in love with Manny, but since I've been with him I sort of exude Attraction (I think Aspen and a couple of us have discussed it before as the In Love thing that seems to emanate from every pore). For some reason, I'm better able to tell when others are more interested. I think perhaps
because I myself am just more aware and looking for it. Before, even when I was interested in relationships, I wasn't "aware".
I think when it comes to flirting, etc., it's a matter of multitasking. We tend to suck at multitasking, so if we're just not focusing on it and KNOW what we're looking for (which, perhaps, just comes with more experience) then we don't see it and start second guessing ourselves and say "She may be trying to be nice that's all."
Before, I didn't know what to look for. Now, I have a much better idea. I don't need to have some guy whistling at me to know he's interested. And I find that's like many things: I didn't know how to do things until I had a good picture in mind. Now, I have a better "flirting" picture in mind and so I don't miss as many things. Granted, I still probably miss stuff. But at least I'm not as thick as before, no hammer required.