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[goddessoflubbock]

It is perfectly normal for a 10 year old to see life-changing events in relation to how they impact their own lives. And it did put a big change in your daily life.

Only you can know how your sister would react, but it seems you two are somewhat close. Perhaps if you could have some brief, concise, written material available to help her understand when/if you tell her.

[Sophist]

It is perfectly normal for a 10 year old to see life-changing events in relation to how they impact their own lives. And it did put a big change in your daily life.

Yes, I agree. Up to a certain age, children will experience a life-changing event in a very egocentric way-- how it affects them.

I sometimes feel guilty about it, but the circumstance surrounding my parents divorce when I was about 5/6, back then I only thought how events would affect me. Not in a callous way, but the child's brain just doesn't really have any perspective but their own. And perhaps moreso for autistics.

Point being, you may still feel guilty, Kevin, about not "properly" mourning your mother's death in an adult fashion, like you would now, but that's just how kids are. It doesn't mean you didn't love her, that's just how kids deal with death.

[SomethingElse]

What other way is there to view death? If someone's passing doesn't affect you, then why would you feel anything at all about it?

[Aspen]

Because you are sad that they won't get to do the things they wanted to do, even if it has no direct bearing on your own life.

Like for example, my brother wanted to live to see his grandson being born, but he didn't get to.