Non-Mental-Health-Related Advice?

[renaeden]

I like the idea. It is a one of a kind gift. The way you describe it, it sounds really nice.
Maybe by putting some positive poems in there will make it seem less creepy in your view?

[Sophist]

Yeah, maybe avoid any poems that might be the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" types. Those might be a tad overwhelming.

[goddessoflubbock]

And is he a "poem" type guy? I know if I'd gone to such hard work for DH he would act appreciative and it wouldn't have pushed him away, but he'd never have read them!

Of course that closeness factor is important as well. In some relationships 6 months is just past friendship - with DH and I we were married within 6 months of meeting!

[Kaylis-Americanis]

He definitely is a poem person...not as much as I am, but still, I wrote him a poem the day we met (a friendship-type one) and then for Valentines day, he wrote me one, after a month of knowing each other. I was also going to put that one in the book, maybe in the back

I think I'm going to do it...it probably won't be done for a few months though, because I like to do things well

Perhaps I will take pictures for y'all

[Noctivagus]

Yeah, maybe avoid any poems that might be the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" types. Those might be a tad overwhelming.

lol... My wife and I were talking about spending the rest of our lives together only one week after we started going out. I guess I'm an odd sort of guy... it didn't make me run away in the least I simply saved up for an engagement ring... which she got on her 21st Birthday.

[adhocisadirtyword]

I never wanted an engagement ring. It seemed like we were already past that almost from the very beginning.

I feel like I've known my husband forever and not nearly long enough.

[Noctivagus]

I feel like I've known my husband forever and not nearly long enough.

lol - I feel exactly the same about my wife

[ruth]

I can only give my thoughts or non-advice from the perspective of my own relationship with my husband. Since he is not a fan of poetry at all a gift like the one you are thinking about giving your boyfriend would mean very little to him. Has he ever given you anything of sentimental value? That might be something to consider. It would all depend on how close the two of you are I think. I have given my husband so many gifts of my own creation, things that I worked days and weeks on, and truthfully, I don't think he was impressed by any of them, or if he was, not to any extent that would be worth the love, time and effort I put into making them. I'm not thrilled to report this, but it's true. A fishing rod or a lemon meringue pie - now that he would remember. He's a materialist.

Over the course of my life I have made and or given many people things that I myself cherished, thinking that they too would cherish them. I really have to restrain myself, refrain from giving my cherished items to others in order to express my love for them. I guess I should be more selective as to whom I give such items. Some of the things I gave away can not be replaced, which would be fine, if they were accepted and lovingly kept and remembered by the folks to whom they were given.

So, if you really love that little book (perhaps someone who loved you gave that book to you knowing, hoping you would love it) think twice before giving it to someone else, in this case your bf, who may not think it as wonderful as you do. I think giving him a book of your poetry and other momentos would be fine, in a book that is non sentimental. Would I take this advice if I was your age. Not in a New York minute.

[Sophist]

I feel like I've known my husband forever and not nearly long enough.

Ahhhh... What a lovely way to put it.

[Kaylis-Americanis]

I really have to restrain myself, refrain from giving my cherished items to others in order to express my love for them. I guess I should be more selective as to whom I give such items.

this appears to be somewhat of a trend here in Gestalt

you guys are all confusing me...yes, he is a poetry type, but also kind of materialistic...at one moment i think he would love it, the next i decide he wouln't appreciate it nearly as much as i would hope....

maybe i should just ask him, lol

[adhocisadirtyword]

Maybe ask him his favorite type of gift - leave it very open ended. Or favorite gifts he's received in the past.

[Kaylis-Americanis]

Maybe ask him his favorite type of gift - leave it very open ended. Or favorite gifts he's received in the past.

Ahhhh, sneaky! I like it: find out if he would like it while still keeping it a suprise!