Job Issues

[Sophist]

goddess, it sounds like to me you need to do whatever you can to get as far away from that workplace as possible. Whatever else happens, it sounds like the lesser of two evils.

Your health is more important and if this goes on, it sounds like they're gonna run you straight into the ground.

Maybe the moving and just getting the hell outta Texas would be best. Start over, find a new job with a happier staff. Your family needs you to be psychologically healthy. And that whole environment sounds less sane than most of the in-patient wards I've been in.

[goddessoflubbock]

I got up this morning and got the kiddoes off to school and fell back into bed. I just couldn't even imagine dragging myself to work. I called my doctor trying to get a referral to a doctor, for worker's comp. Well dear doc wants me to come see her first, I guess so she can get her 40 buck copay. My appt is tomorrow, I'm still not sure what I'm going to do.

I surely have an ADA claim against them as they took negative action against me for something I can't do and they claimed they would do for me and did not. And it is an EXTREMELY reasonable accomodation.

I'm just stuck between a rock and a hard place, dh isn't working and the bills will keep rolling in.

I'll have to sleep on it.

[Sophist]

No chance getting on SSDI or something I guess?

[goddessoflubbock]

I would absolutely qualify for ssdi - the nueropathy in my feet is so bad that on the good days I can't feel them, on the bad ones they burn like fire.

I had a meeting, where I pointed out the ADA issues and the reasonableness of the accommodation request. I was told basically it was my fault, I should have reminded them every day essentially. I even attached a letter from my doc stating I have a total disability. Ugh.

Well I'm here today anyway. We'll see how it goes.

Oh, and it was 58 this morning. I bitched loudly, and now it's 69.

[Sophist]

Oh, and it was 58 this morning. I bitched loudly, and now it's 69.

Well, at least the b****ing worked.

[goddessoflubbock]

Ok, is everyone just ** out their own words?? Because mine always print in full!!

Well I had another meeting today, and presented a letter of mine along with a letter from my dr stating I'm disabled, basically they claimed it was my fault, that I should have told them every day that I needed files.

I'm having a chat with hubby tonight, I've had all I can take here.

[Sophist]

Ok, is everyone just ** out their own words?? Because mine always print in full!!

Well I had another meeting today, and presented a letter of mine along with a letter from my dr stating I'm disabled, basically they claimed it was my fault, that I should have told them every day that I needed files.

I'm having a chat with hubby tonight, I've had all I can take here.

Definitely, get the hell outta Dodge, goddess.

[goddessoflubbock]

DH and I are now not seeing eye to eye. He thinks I'm being unreasonable about my job, mostly because he worked for a real a** for several years and he put up with the guy and would actually hold the door for him as he left and say "goodnight Mr. S" just to rub it in. But he forgets, he was also in a union job in a town where he could get the same job for the same pay tomorrow.

He also doesn't understand why I want to give up our house. It is our first house, and I do LOVE the house itself. I'd love it better if I could pick it up and move it OUT of Texas!! He griped that I *dragged* the family to Texas, and now he seems to not want to leave.

He feels that with my ssdi check, we'll be able to live more comfortably here than anywhere else. Which may be true, but I thought he hated it here as much as I do. And I just can't physically manage to move without his help. Ugh. Men.

[adhocisadirtyword]

It sounds like it is more the fear of change, than it is the love of the environment. Maybe not. If the cost of living is low enough there, he may have a point about the SSDI check, though. I know my mom is moving to Utah because she can't afford to live in California on Social Security alone.

[goddessoflubbock]

I have my suspicions, although I know a dislike of change is part of it - as is not looking forward to the cleaning and organizing required to pack and sell a house. I'm not looking forward to that either - and I don't particularly like change, nor do I wish to give up my first ever home of my own so easily.

But Texas is just so, different. It really *IS* like a whole other country - they aren't kidding. With it's own language, etc.

He does have a point about the ssdi. It would be much harder for us to live back east on my money alone. He'd be forced to either find work or find a good lawyer to help him collect ssdi as well. And honestly as time goes on I need him at home as well, so it's a tough situation.

All I know for sure is I HAVE to get out of this job situation.

[Aspen]

I'm sorry that it is so difficult for you, Goddess. I hope you can find an answer that both you and your husband can live with.

I know that I am one of the biggest babies in the world when it comes to having to move.

[adhocisadirtyword]

Moving definitely sucks. I hope it works out for you guys and you can find some kind of solution.

I once hired some temporary laborers to help me move boxes into and out of a U-Haul. I could drive and do the packing, but I'm so small actually moving the furniture and boxes (even with help) was too much. It was suprisingly cheap and not even a tenth as much as hiring a moving company.

[Aspen]

My husband and I did the same thing. We hired movers to move our things into and out of the U-Hauls, but we did the packing and driving.

Another even less expensive, but more complicated solution is to rent a semi-trailer instead of a U-Haul and hire someone to load and unload it and hire someone else with a tractor to pull your rented semi-trailer.

[goddessoflubbock]

I'm thinking I'm going to have to hire someone to help pack - maybe even some high school girls or something. Then once the large part of the junque is out of the house, hire a cleaning company to come in and do a big job of really getting into the nitty gritty, to get it ready to show. From there the upkeep shouldn't be a problem, especially with all the knick knacks gone!

I'm going to make an appt when I'm off for a week (whenever that is!) to visit with SSa and see about getting on ssdi.

I have to get this ball rolling, with or without hubby's help.

I went into the mgr yesterday, and as much as I hated to, pointed out that yes, they were right that my coworker referred 20+ cases this month, but then showed her his "regular" case work, a list of cases and how he'd not really worked them, just essentially shoved them under the rug. Doing so will cause them to be referrals in two months, and referrals aren't REALLY what we want in the long run. She agreed, and is meeting with him. My point wasn't to get him in trouble, but to show that I'm doing *that* work, and it's darn near impossible to do everything they want.

(Actually in a group meeting my mgr listed our duties, and said "Spend half your day doing EIM - my usual stuff - spend half your day working referrals, and spend half your day working this list." Uhh, I come up short a half.

[adhocisadirtyword]

(Actually in a group meeting my mgr listed our duties, and said "Spend half your day doing EIM - my usual stuff - spend half your day working referrals, and spend half your day working this list."

Ugh... Managers.