Yes, stuff like this has happened to me a lot. My reticence is often mistaken for rudeness, unfriendliness, or apathy. I thought my ex-girlfriend was an aspie too, but I'd learned too late that she's more of an NT than I was. For example, when she'd open up the door of her car for me, it didn't occur to me until she pointed it out that I should have opened the car door for her before she got in. For some reason, this really bothered her. In the battle between actions and words, she insisted, actions won. Over time, she trusted me less and less, on the basis of the percieved discrepancy between my words and actions.
When she told me about the problems she was having and I silently listened to her, I was thinking, "Oh my God, I'm so sorry," but I didn't actually say it, thinking that it was a vapid phrase and she wasn't very sappy anyway. Instead, I tried to inject a tangentally related joke into the conversation to lighten her up. Later on, though, she told me that I was being insensitive, waiting for an opportunity to say something I knew I could speak of rather than mourning her problems with her.
And I thought she was an aspie too. And a psychology person, no less. But I've had psychologists misinterpreting me my entire life.