Mistaken motives; every time.

[SomethingElse]

I had a boyfriend who's uncle kept calling me Katherine. Each time I corrected him and he apologised, but then one day I corrected him and asked why he keeps getting my name wrong and he said, "Ah, but your real name is Katherine." I told him it's not and he said, "Ask your mum to show you your birth certificate - Katie is short for Katherine." He was being really smug, so he actually seemed to deflate when I told him that I was literally named Katie.

I pretty much dislike all other forms of the name Katie, bar Katie itself. A friend of mine still calls me Katie most of the time (or Benjaninja??) but she often spells it Kaytee. I think I'd rather be called Kay that Kate if it's being shortened. I don't mind when my family call me Kate, but I hate it if they right it down like that. I'm not sure why.

I dislike many more girls names than I do boys, and I do have quite a liking for most unisex names, but I tend to prefer girly sounding girls names. I like 'ie' instead of 'y' at the end of most names as well. Billie instead of Billy for example.

Btw, my mum named me Katie because of the books 'What Katy Did' - since then she's always liked the name. She decided to change the spelling because the rest of my name 'sits on the line' when written on a line. If I had any letters that dropped below the line (g,y,p,q,f,j...) then it would have been spelled with a 'y'. Then I would have changed my name by deed poll to Benji, but as it stands I'm happy to leave my legal name (even though I have thought about changing it anyway).

I think of myself as Benji, though. It's natural to me to introduce myself as Benji, etc. Even though my family never call me that, and the friends I still see (albeit rarely) know me as Katie (including J who I see more regularly).

[Noctivagus]

My daughter's middle name is 'Emilie' with a European 'ie' rather than a 'y'

[Ischium]

Yes, stuff like this has happened to me a lot. My reticence is often mistaken for rudeness, unfriendliness, or apathy. I thought my ex-girlfriend was an aspie too, but I'd learned too late that she's more of an NT than I was. For example, when she'd open up the door of her car for me, it didn't occur to me until she pointed it out that I should have opened the car door for her before she got in. For some reason, this really bothered her. In the battle between actions and words, she insisted, actions won. Over time, she trusted me less and less, on the basis of the percieved discrepancy between my words and actions.

When she told me about the problems she was having and I silently listened to her, I was thinking, "Oh my God, I'm so sorry," but I didn't actually say it, thinking that it was a vapid phrase and she wasn't very sappy anyway. Instead, I tried to inject a tangentally related joke into the conversation to lighten her up. Later on, though, she told me that I was being insensitive, waiting for an opportunity to say something I knew I could speak of rather than mourning her problems with her.

And I thought she was an aspie too. And a psychology person, no less. But I've had psychologists misinterpreting me my entire life.

[Noctivagus]

For example, when she'd open up the door of her car for me, it didn't occur to me until she pointed it out that I should have opened the car door for her before she got in.

I remember having a stand up row with a girl BECAUSE I opened a door for her. She thought I was being chauvenistic!!! I just don't like going through a door in front of anybody, guy or girl no difference.

I really like your Avatar, Ischium

[adhocisadirtyword]

I remember having a stand up row with a girl BECAUSE I opened a door for her. She thought I was being chauvenistic!!! I just don't like going through a door in front of anybody, guy or girl no difference.

I always want to be last through the door too (unless I'm going for a spot as mentioned in another thread). This is probably one of the things I find most annoying about being female. Most guys consider it their duty to hold the door open for me and I won't argue about it - it's a silly thing to argue about in most instances. I honestly just want to go in last though. Not sure why.

[Blandit]

Ischium: In the battle between actions and words, she insisted, actions won.

This is usually the case. It would seem that this should work. But strangely enough, it only works some of the time with some people. People and relationships are so much more complex than these little, pat social niceties would indicate. You have to understand the individual person.

It's like the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. This has really backfired a time or two!!

[Blandit]

BTW, I too prefer to enter a door last. I hate having people behind me!